Gobble, Don't Squabble: A Thoughtful Approach to Holiday Politics

Thanksgiving brings a gathering of diverse perspectives alongside the shared meal. Discussions about politics, especially this year, will likely come up. Disagreements may surface that could create tension and even anger. Managing these moments requires thoughtful effort. Here's some "food" for thought.

Respect Identity

Politics are sometimes connected to a person’s identity, experiences, and values. For many, discussing these issues is not just about exchanging ideas; it involves addressing fundamental aspects of who they are. Understanding this can help shift the focus away from trying to win an argument and instead foster an environment where people feel heard and respected.

Manage Tone and Listen Actively

The tone of the conversation is super important. Heated discussions often escalate when participants feel ignored or dismissed. Active listening, which involves fully focusing on what someone is saying without immediately planning a response, can help ease tension. It demonstrates respect, even when there is disagreement.

Know When to Disengage

It's also important to know when to disengage. Some moments call for stepping back rather than pressing forward. These conversations are rarely about reaching consensus or persuading others to see things your way. Realizing that, can make the conversation much easier to manage and the food easier to digest.