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The damage of living in a Humpty Dumpty Family


Three brown eggs in an egg carton with faces drawn on them

In a family, there is often a dynamic referred to as "The Humpty Dumpty experience". This concept centers around an issue that has been spoken of in many therapist's office, "I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells around him/her".


Whether this experience is uttered by a partner, a parent, a child, or a sibling, it all means the same thing, one member of the family holds a great deal of power to control the atmosphere in the home. This dynamic creates many challenges within a family system.


Most importantly, when any member of a family feels they have to walk on eggshells around another family member, there is an unhealthy balance created in that relationship, often effecting the whole family. Communication patterns, relationship modeling, and family values become disruptive for all members of the family as there are no clear rules around behavioral expe